answers 0:Okay, so about 20 minutes ago, my dad physically hit my mom... Hard. I have a video of him doing so. Now, my question is, should I submit this to the police? Or go to my school's counselor and discuss the next plan of action? As of now, I view my dad as an outlaw to my family. He is a inconsiderate, egocentric son of a *****. I have dealt with his crap for far too long and no longer care for him. Do not call me selfish, because I've given my dad more than one chance to redeem himself... I'm a 15 year old boy that needs help. My life is going the wrong way, my mom's life is going the wrong way, and my brother is receiving negative factors towards his life that will affect him in the long run. Please, help me....Show moreanswers 1:First of all I want to say that I am so sorry that you have had to witness your mom being abused by your dad. My heart ! goes out to you,I was raised watching my mom being abused. Now im in a Domestic violence shelter. It is a very good place with lots of support. Look on line for a national domestic violence hot line.call them and maybe they can help you and your family take the steps needed to get help, healing and strength.answers 2:Bring the video to your school counselor. What a brave boy you are. I'm so sorry you're going through this. You should be worrying about school and friends, not this crap.answers 3:Okay this is what has to be done. By law you boys are being in danger. Your mother can be put in jail if you boys are still in the house, cuz your father is a threat. You are NOT selfish at all, you are wanting change. My father did the same thing and to this day is a complete ***. I never did anything about it. IF you tell the police they would arrest him and you guys will be questioned. If you report it to your school consular they will report it to CPS . So I would do the CPS. The! police will be more cruel. The teachers will know you the bes! t and give you comfort. You can get your father away from your brother and mother. If you want to talk just email me : [email protected] I can help you out. Or you can tell your mother about it. She might be too scared to do anything about, this could hurt your relationship with her. But just take it step by step. When our parents fail to act like parents it hurts us and pretty much my life has been F*** cuz my father didn't not want to step to the plate. Its hard to grow up without a father. So do yourself a favor and go with your gut or what I stated above. Also email me, for the last 16 years of my life i still live with the memories of my father. But we reported it and its fine now. My mother got tried of it and it was a long emotionally route but its for the better. You will find yourself in the end with hatred. Then you will forgive him one day... I have somewhat done that, but i still have scars that have big hurtful wounds....answers 4:Have you tried talking to you! r mother and telling her that you need her to help you remedy the situation. I personally think that you really need to report this incident. It sounds like your father is not being a positive factor in your life and his abuse towards your family is escalating. The only way to get him to stop is to report him, and you have it on tape so the police have solid evidence. In my state (Florida) if the police are called out on a domestic violence call the police have to make an arrest, so your dad would definitely go to jail, you don't have to be afraid of him not going and being angry with you. Not sure what the specifics are in other states, but I am sure they must be somewhat similar. If you report this to a teacher or counselor at school they are bound by law to report this to authorities, so talking to them would also accomplish getting someone else involved. Good luck....answers 5:CALL THE POLICE! and let them see the video....you're not selfish, you are brave and you! are doing the right thing by not tolerating it any longer...call the p! olice so that they remove your father from the home and tell your mother that you cant tolerate what he is doing any longer and that the two of you together can stop him from doing it again. She will be proud of you in her heart, but she may be scared and she might say things out of fear to deter you...but dont buy it, she needs help. Start by getting the abuser out of the house and the legal system will make him pay as well as protecive services...mom needs a restraining order and a divorce attorney pronto!...answers 6:Oh honey we grew up like that. Go to the police. Get help. Don't let this go on anymore. If you Mom is not gonna do it then you have to do it. Tell someone at school too.answers 7:next plan would be to talk to your mom to see how she feels about it if you dont like her answer then go to the counselor at your school to help that way you will have some to talk to about it afterwards but yes you need to do something about it it only gets worse trust me on ! tht one my ex step dad use to hit my mom i called the cops right then while it was going on its hard to be brave but your doing the right thing good luck hope this helpsanswers 8:Soon as possible, no later than tomorrow, take mom and brothers to cops and show detective the Video and ask for him, dad, to be arrested and jailed on assault and battery and harassment. Also, Get police to help you all get a criminal order of protection against dad so he cannot return home or come within anyone you closer than 500 yards. Also get a court order for dad to have to pay all house bills, for health insurance and copyists for all of you, dental, prescription drugs with, child support and maintenance (alimony) for mom. Dad is disturbed. If mom won't go to cops, you go alone and ask FOR the same. Ask brothers quietly if they'd go with you and swear out a warrant for dad's arrest, etc. If IT is Only you, still get a criminal order of protection against dad, so he can't come home....!
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